How do you experience
close relationships?
Attachment describes patterns in how we seek closeness, lean on others, and respond when connection feels uncertain. Patterns can differ across relationships and change over time. Understanding your patterns can provide insight into how your relationships unfold.
Anxiety
How much you worry about being valued, cared for, or left.
Avoidance
How uncomfortable it feels to open up or depend on others.
About 8–12 minutes · Adults · Every section is optional
1 = lower · 7 = higher.
Your results will place a point for each relationship you choose to explore.
Four familiar patterns
These are educational prototypes, not diagnoses or boxes you have to fit into.
Closeness and independence can both feel comfortable.
Connection matters, and uncertainty may bring a strong need for reassurance.
Self-reliance may feel safer than depending on someone or opening up.
Wanting closeness and protecting yourself from it may show up together.
The terms are also known as “preoccupied” (Anxious), “dismissing” or “dismissive-avoidant” (Avoidant), and “fearful-avoidant” (Anxious-Avoidant).
Before you begin
There are no right answers and no passing score. Answer for how you generally feel about each relationship. You can skip a section, take a break, or keep your results to yourself.
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